Be honest with your husband about how you feel, and maybe suggest that he hang out with this guy on his own, while you get some relaxing you-time at home while he is away on the boat?

(This is advice from someone who is not married, but I generally find that it's better to just be honest with people and try to work out something reasonable. Most people understand.)

meh, i have tried to even explain why I don't like this person, and my husband's response is "oh thats just XX running his mouth. You know he doesn't really mean it like that."

But yeah, I think I'm going to back out of the boat trips. Besides not getting along, i get REALLY clostriphobic (sp?) on boats, especially one the size of his. Its like being in a camper in the water. And the last time we did an overnight on the boat, it took me 2 days to get over the wave feeling. *barf*

This would work:

"I don't like your friend. I don't want him in my home. You can go hang out with him when you like, but please don't invite me as I am officially declining all invitations now. Did I mention I don't like him?"

I used something similar with one of Angies friends. I didn't like the girl, or rather her personality. The girl herself was actually nice. Since our personalities clashed and I couldn't stand being in the room with her for more than a few minutes, I had no choice but to tell her. It worked itself out in the end once she knew how strongly I felt about the situation.

i have the same issue, one of my hubbies very good friends and I dont get along,, he is old school, women should be barefoot and pregnant type, and I myself am just about as outspoken as they come, completely the opposite of this guys wife. I just told my hubby that he stays out of my house and I will stay out of his, believe me life is much easier, lol. Every time he was over here I found myself purposely taunting him and running my mouth just to annoy him, lol. Sometimes I wanted to just smack him, lol, so life is definately much easier now that we stay away from each other.

at least they never come over. Another reason why I don't like them. Been in the "new house" 3 years now, and they are always too busy to make it over for dinner.

And yes Nicole, same type of guy. before him and his wife were married, i took her out for a night on the town, all we did was go dancing. We came home around 2am and he was standing at the door with the look of death in his eyes. I never bothered asking her to go out again.